waiting for the other shoe

[JustStunned]

25 posted this over on needgrace’s thread. I thought you might be able to benefit from it.

here is a short piece on Detachment. There are other pieces on this site. It is not specific,

but if you GAL and bear these principles in mind it may help..

here it is.


"This was originally posted by Peanut.
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II. Detachment
Detachment is critical to the process of altering and repairing a relationship.

Attached, we take personally all that is said, not said, done and not done. Our ego gets wounded and we say or do things that undermine our goals.

We can NOT control the actions of another. We are, however, responsible for our own actions. We are responsible for our own happiness.

If we are detached from the actions of another, we can meet anger or indifference with love.

Met with love, we are in a position to diffuse the situation and transform it in a way that will be in alignment with our goals.

On the flipside, detachment allows us to play it cool when we do get a positive reaction from our spouse. It is a way to break the distance/pursuer cycle.

Detachment is not withdrawal.

It is not the mind saying, "I am not getting what I want so I must pull back." It is the natural acceptance of the reality that "I am alone responsible for how I act.

I cannot control another person, but I can control how I respond to them."


good luck!
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