Wen,

He is a mess and will continue to be for a while. I agree with Beatrice in regards to leaving him a lone. He will eventually resent your attempts to "help" him and it will only explode in your face. Let him be with no assistance from you. Mid life crisis is about lessons learned. He needs to learn his. The sooner you detach and move out of his way, the sooner those lessons become a reality.


Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11