Snowman, I am in a similiar sitch my wife filed for divorce in Jan 2012 and I moved up to a house I was remodeling about an hour away. We had our 18th anniversary in March and I sent her a small text telling her that I did not forget what day it was, but I did not do anything beyond that... I bought and completed a Mort Fortel course called marriage fitness which is an excellent course, but I am not bugging her about whether she wants to go thru the course...I just leave her alone... Gandi said: "become the change in the world you desire", and I have made the statement that "you get what you give" both are true and accurate... I know that we guys tend to want to FIX things, but in these sitch we have to back off and do nothing... Mort Fertels Marriage Fitness course is a great alternative to marriage counseling... I quickly learned that MC was not worth a hoot, but Mort takes you back to the basics that helped us all fall in love...and stay in love... At this point I am quietly trying to let her work it out in her mind, but I have accepted that we might end up divorced... It is what it is... Please know that you are not alone in all of this... Thanks and try to stay positive...
