Wendy, I'm not surprised to read about your h's reaction to the shift in rooms/possessions. His world is rocking back and forth and I don't believe the ow has totally booted him to the curb.
You validated his feelings, but now you need to stick to the high road and let him fume and sulk for a while. Don't back down.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.