He said he didn't know, his life is shattered. I said "I don't know what to say except I'm sorry to hear that."
Good job. Validate, but don't rescue him from this process. High road.
You are the kind and loving goddess that he was foolish enough to leave. You can afford to be generous and benevolent.
And truth be told - he's in a sad, painful place. He set a bomb off in his life, and now he has to face the wreckage without the dopamine high of the affair. This is a very painful, confusing place for the WAS to be - and they often really have no idea how they ended up there.
