Ad beat me to it.^^^^ I composed a very similar post in my head last night but decided to think about it overnight.

Look back on what you wrote in your first post and then the one about your wife's salary. See any correlations?

This process is about digging deep into you and becoming a person your wife might want to come back to. It's necessary to face the ugly parts and be truthful with yourself.

It's not what we think that really matters, it's what your W thinks. Perhaps you have offended her in the same ways.

Good luck.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss