I absolutely agree....any of us who find ourselves here need to cast off the old marriage and take a stand for a new and improved union. That is the healthy and only way to go, which I learned the hard way by resisting for so long. It takes a lot of courage to do so...I know that first hand. I applaud Autumn and stand behind her 100% in saying she will not tolerate status quo any longer. She is certainly a woman of strength and integrity and is teaching her sons valuable lessons.
And it is unfortunate that the moderators aren't able to chime in on a regular basis. I don't know the reason for that, but I do imagine moderating the boards, particularly Newcomers, is a big task. I do think investing in a DB coach is a worthy investment.
I just wanted to throw in my 2 cents with Autumn, as I know what it's like to feel like one's spouse is in a hopeless situation and unable to change. No doubt the walkaway spouse has to want to change, and I'm grateful mine got to that point before it was too late (as we were well into the divorce process). I'm really grateful, too, that I found the courage and strength in large part from this board to focus on my own change and not try to rush a divorce. Also, in my case, separation was key (even though I fought it with my spouse in the beginning). I hate my kids had to go through that, but it taught both my husband and me a lot about what we were missing out on.
As with all the fine folks who make the effort to come to this site and post on it for themselves and others, I support Autumn in her decision and wish her the very best. She is obviously an intelligent, spiritual woman...a great wife, mother and lady in general. Again, I just wanted to share my story as one who has once felt helpless in my marriage and is now reconciling.
