Confronting is not necessarily a DB no-no, my DB coach was supportive of me doing it. Sometimes the person WILL back off, it depends how they feel. Sometimes it has gotten more serious than the other person wants.
Involving his mother on the other hand was a DB no-no. All that's going to do is make him resent you. Leave her out of it going forward if you can, she really lacks the power to talk him out of what he's doing.
You will NOT always have the insecurity of thinking he would rather be with OW. That will absolutely go away. If you are being a wife only a fool would leave and speaking his love language, his obvious satisfaction will stamp out that insecurity, it will go.
Your thoughts that you are hot and a good catch are great! That's right where you want to be. Anything you can do to continue to build that will be great for you and your situation. You are a great person, H's actions are NOT a negative reflection on you.
It seems you are DB'ing very well overall. Keep him guessing -- not answering his baiting questions is great. If he says he's confused tell him you're sorry to hear that and move on, no more discussion. You must be unphased. He must believe his power over you is waning. Go out and have fun, and keep thinking of yourself as hot and capable.
Good for you!
Accuray
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
