As hard as it is..try to let it go-- of the ow Dont ask him..Let it go..dont ask..dont snoop..she is nothing just a bandaid..the mlcer is sick, The OW is sicker
Instead make small talk, act like "PRETEND" you are doing OK make some plans with a friend Get support for yourself wish him well when he leaves.. support and validate him Then the MLCer feels less controlled..he feels accepted and he becomes easier to deal with he talks a little You become friendly and the seperation becomes amlicable which is best for everyone The LBS grows in powerful ways by doing this It is a huge time in our lives for change, growth and transformation.. Practice detaching..it is hard, but holding on is harder so in the end , it is the easier way There is NOTHING you can do to stop his MLC, nothing to break up his R with OW, Nothing to bring him into reality right now Im sorry..I know it is hard, but there is no other way
Please take care of yourself, eat , rest, seek therapy you will be ok..It just takes time..keep posting
Peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
