Not sure where to start

[wishing, hoping]

That is exactly what Leni was telling me. But how do you stop that dance? Does the book tell you how to break the cycle? Leni told me to change how I react. Do the unexpected and then he will have to change his response as well.

I have noticed if I do not answer the phone when h calls he will chase me. I need to make him miss me more.

And yes Accuray I think that is exactly it. He wants this divorce so he can't be the cheater anymore. His guilt is weighing him down. But I have no choice but to let him go. He has already told me that in a year he may regret his decision.

Leni made me feel good because she told me she sensed a strong positive energy coming from me and with patience, perseverance and prayer I could save my marriage. I might not be able to stop the divorce but she said sometimes you need to divorce the old marriage to start fresh again. I envision a phoenix emerging from the ashes of the dead marriage. She also said positive energy and positive thoughts were essential. Why didn't I call sooner? I wish I had her on speed dial!!! Lol!