That's all. Learn how to feel your feelings (it takes 90 seconds); when we attach stories to those feelings and don't actually feel them, they can last 90 years if we let them.
Get into your body. Breath. Then trust - you.
25 is right - only you can make you feel safe. You're looking outside yourself for just about everything right now. What about what's in you? Do you hate yourself?
What advise would you give your daughter if she were in your shoes?
Cultivate that to the little hurt wounded girl inside you.
That's mothering yourself. It's self-soothing. It's a basic tenent to being a healthy adult and not a codependent one.
Beyond that, trust your gut - your instinct. Because that is the only thing that will tell you directly if your husband is cheating, lying, etc.
Not your best friend, your family, him, anyone else. You. Your intuition.
You'll always have that. No one can take it away but you.
There was a time in your life when you felt your power got taken without your permission.
But you were young then.
Now you're an adult. You have to give permission for someone to take your power away. Have you?
Are you trying to correct a wrong from the past? Recreating that sitch?
Explore these things - with your IC, yourself, in a group, with a coach.
But - in the meantime, get back to calm.
Only and i mean ONLY from this calm place - not from a fearful, jolted, traumatized, unclear one - can you make a rightful decision about your life and marriage.
