Not sure where to start

[zig]

tha's great to hear wishing - i'm waiting for a monetary miracle so i can get me one of those too. not happening right now, money wise though

i know your frustrations about stuff like that with the kids - i get seriously worked up too. what's interesting though, is after i read some of the older posts describing the mental state a WAS is actually in, i began to understand better, that they really are not thinking or seeing what they are doing or the effects of what they are doing.

it doesn't make it any better, but the couple of times when i have very nicely pointed something out to my h - in terms of his actions hurting or affecting s - i have been really surprised at his response - he has jumped to correct it and thanked me profusely. he didn't do that in the beginning (but the "wiser" i become now (wink) i realize that i was probably not able to say it in a way that didn't make him feel defensive back then)

then he has slipped up again after a bit, and then i get worked up all over. but every time i remind myself that he is really not able to think straight, it helps me to calm down .

hope you and the kids are having a grand old time -enjoy the break away from the mess for a while , as my friend advised me last week

zig