Just another thought! When H always was needed a little more attention, he would start to complain of not feeling well, or some ailment.
Last week I about fainted when he told me he had slept in with a migraine that morning. He hasn't offered any of that personal information for a very long time.
Past experience: migraines are the result of his head injury...the one he got from OW ex husband. He's living with OW. How ironic is that?