Hi Finding Nemo - just wanted to say hi and tell you I'm following your sitch and sympathizing. I have kids about the same ages as yours, except the little one. My boys are 14 and just-turned-12. I've been at this since last June.
I spent a lot of time and emotion at first agonizing over how a man could do this to his kids. But in the end the relationship he feels a need to end is with you, and the kids are along for the ride. If you're the best Finding that you can be, and you look inward and use this experience to your benefit, you'll know you did everything that you could to help your kids. They'll learn from your strength, and from seeing how you respond to life's setbacks. They'll benefit from your therapy if you get good therapy, they'll benefit from your increased ability to see the other side and respond without reacting. Certain things we all learn here after awhile, that make us better people, better parents, and better partners for the future.
I haven't had a lot of time on the boards lately, but just wanted to pop in and say hi.
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
