Okay, between Fergie and Starsky... now, I'm reading along closer...
(Pardon me if I forget some details, as I read your history awhile back)
Finances - I guess I just wonder... why, if you are the one to be distributing money, that she's given more than what is absolutely necessary to handle the household? I'm not sure I'd trust someone whose considering walking away, have access to additional cash...
Plus, if you're asked... and, finances were an issue in the past... Just LEAD, and tell her. "I gave you what was needed to run the house. I kept the rest in savings, and am considering how we can invest in most appropriately."
Drinking - This is just ridiculous behavior coming from a 30-something Mother. My first gut feeling is to ask you if there's a way to lock her butt out, if she's out late, and/or you know she'll be coming home in that state. You have young children.... yet, old enough to get that 'Mom's not normal'!!! I'd get a handle on that quickly. What's next? Taking them to events w/her friends, and driving them home?
Infidelity - I don't think women always have to have someone else lined to up to want to leave. Especially, since your W is in her party girl mode. HOWEVER, there sure are a lot of red flags!!!
Any subtle hints? If you've been intimate lately... new requests, etc...? New undergarments? New purchases from VS, etc...? Does she talk about a male, perhaps a mutual acquaintance, etc... a little more? Women like to talk. She might even find a way to talk abut them TO you... Just cuz, we like to talk.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
