I just want to be friends...

[breakdownbill]

Journal Entry:

My findings are that all us LBS's need to find a 'friend' as it does fall under the remit of GAL. Boy, that will get your mind off of things so fast AND it will make your S's head spin. With all of our work on ourselves, losing weight, etc., it's bound to happen, so I am surprised no one has mentioned it here in the forum.

Has anyone else acquired a friend lately?

Hey YC

What Labug said about how do you know it would make your H's head spin is right. However, I can see as many benefits as drawbacks to seeing somebody else whilst separated. It all depends on YOU as a person really. If it helps YOU grow as a person and gives YOU confidence and conviction to move on, then go for it. If you want to get back with your H though, it is another obstacle to get over and a balance that you would have to determine for yourself.

Here's a quick list of pro's & con's for seeing someone whilst separated

Pro's

1. You get to experience dating and the early stages of a new relationship again.
2. It's good practice if you & your H get back together again - you'd have fresh experience of how to start a new relationship.
3. You get to have fun now & see if the grass is actually greener.


Con's

1. It might just make your H file now.
2. You may have a bitter & expensive Divorce.
3. You might regret not holding out for your H, if it was a deal breaker for them on a possible future reconciliation.

Something to think about - but only YOU can decide what's best for YOU right now.

Good luck YC & remember that it's always best to sound out the forum with any major changes in your sitch, because sometimes we don't want to hear the other side of the story.

Have a great Easter

Bill