I've posted a few other insights but will try to remember and make some time to help you break the code later... lol
But yeah, we're pretty simple in our methods. And sometimes as subtle as an ox in a china store. Of course, there's some deep and complex reasoning that goes on, deep under the surface... but the beauty of it all is, that our possible responses under normal circumstances are like that FB post that talks about how dogs are...
if we can't eat it or play with it, we piss on it and walk away...
Of course, that one is safe for kids, because the first sentence would also include if we can't screw it...
The men here are all good men. What we write on these boards is the internal stuff that in the normal world, we would generally not let out... our "feminine"/Venus side, if you will... we are more in touch with it and willing to share it to this anonymous group...
Yes, there are variations and some of us can actually be vulnerable enough to speak our mind and this side of us, in public...
sometimes...
Just remember, your H is messed up in the head...
If I knew him personally, I'd punch him in the head and then take him for a beer...
It does sound like he is trying to reach out and connect and in his MLC/WAS mind frame, when it doesn't get a positive response, he lashes out...
and imagine this from his MLC mind... sometimes, if he DOES get a positive response, he'll lash out... because you are pursuing him, because he wanted to reach out to you...
And his male brain doesn't necessarily treat you or the kids any different than he would treat anyone. It's when his confused brain gets in the way, and he doesn't see the positive response, he goes into "war" mode...
