Brooklyn Babe

[2thepoint]

I am kind of over doing anything to "get" my h back. I don't want to sabotage myself but I am trying my best to move on.

As ironic as it may sound, it is when you have truly reached the point of letting go and you no longer care if you and your H ever get back together again, that you have your best opportunity of actually getting back together.

Busto once told me that when you finally let go and begin to pull away, if there are any emotional strings that attach you two, it is then that those strings will go taut and begin to pull your H back towards you.

And so it would seem that in spite of everything you have done, the effort, the pain and the tears, now you must just let go and move on if there is any chance to bring your H back.

I know my h is pissed that I dont tell the world that we are separated. Especially when woman I know approach him like we are together - that LEDs my h to be pissed at me for several days.

I want to address this with my h in a reasonable way. Again I am over trying to bite my tongue too much but I don't want screw myself.

What I would like to say is "it's still very hard for me to discuss our separation but you should go ahead and let who ever know that we are not together"

You know, from my perspective it really is none of your H business who you choose to discuss your private R matters with. If I were you I'd ignore his angry outburst. It is just another consequence of his actions that he will have to live with.

I also think it is time for some serious boundary setting. If you are truly done, then the boundaries regarding any interaction you two may have should be clearly defined and adhered to.

Again, this is just part of the letting go process. Once these boundaries are established, you will feel more in control of your life and your emotions and then maybe, just maybe, you H will begin to feel the tug on these remaining heart strings that still tie you two together.

So, are you really ready to let go?