I guess that when she starts talking like a WAS the fixer in me goes into overdrive. Rather than taking things day by day I panic and then start thinking and acting negatively. Even W saw that I was acting different on Thursday Night.
Sad (GOD, you need to change that username!!),
If you haven't already done so, I'd suggest you do some basic reading on infidelity. There are several good books on it, and also you can read other people's sitches here on this forum. Because "when your wife starts talking like a WAS" is precisely the time you should see it as SCRIPT, just laugh a little inside to yourself, and DON'T ENGAGE.
You've got it backwards. Rather than "panic," you should actually draw COMFORT from just how typical, predictive, and "SCRIPT" everything she's saying is.
And knowing this, you can better plan your responses . . . in advance.
