I agree w/ Rick BK. You are not responsible for h's emotions, never have been, never will be. If he gets pissed about something that he perceives you did or didn't do then so be it.
It seems like they can find anything and spin it into us doing something wrong so they can be mad.
You decide who you want to tell and what you want to say, not him. Your living your life for you and your kids now.
