LOL....Oh Kaffe, thanks so much! That was hilarious!!
And really, I really do appreciate you breaking the code and telling me this! I honestly had NO IDEA! Thank you, Thank you!
Gosh now I feel like a burden has been lifted and I understand so much more now, but feel awful for looking at things the way I have. But I wasn't doing this to be difficult or cause trouble.
I simply did NOT KNOW.
So my stbx is still trying to please myself and the girls. It's that simple.
You know I've felt that way ever since he left. Like he was still trying to please me at times during "nice phases", or my approval meant so much to him, even though he still walked out. Where my "logic" gets my head spinning is "he left for all his wonderful reasons he feels are justifiable. Why on earth would my approval still mean something to him, especially if he's living with the OW and spewing?"
And now hindsight being 20/20, he purrs like a kitten when he gets my approval on something that he really wants approval on. And yes if he drops his little hints about something and I think it's a good idea, he loves it. Well that is when he's not been in the rabbit hole and in the land of the living. There was a time that all my attention didn't mean anything to him. He didn't want my attention. Now...almost seems like he wants it?
Gee this puts a whole new spin on things here. Maybe I ought to just chill out and go with this and see what happens. Maybe he really is trying to respect me and give me some space yet he really needs to know he's doing something right. I mean the man has obviously has not forgotten my personality and wants to help. Offering to make that trip for me was the first random act of true kindness and unselfish act he's done towards me in years. Infact I don't think he's done anything that kind since my mother died.
Kaffe...if you're willing and open, enlighten me more on these secrets about men! Just by you opening up like that I feel like a whole new woman!
