I have a friend who discovered her husband was living a "secret life". Her therapist told her he qualified as someone with Anti-social behavior, a certain type of personality disorder, maybe you should look that up?
Sorry about your situation, that sounds rough.

Better days are ahead....

M 37, H 37
M 10, T 12
S 4
D 2
3/14/12 ILYBNILWY
4/2/12 H consults a L, files nothing
4/26/12 H moves to his new place

I do not want to have regrets