Not to hijack your thread but my H said those horrible things to me as well and read off a laundry list of everything I have ever said or did wrong in our 14 years together. Some of the facts were wrong and some things were out and out lies but whenever I would correct him he would tell me I was wrong or else he would change the subject. I felt like dog doo for a month until I found this site and realized it was all script and that it truly was his problem, not mine.
Absolutely. In the mind of a WAS, the LBS IS wrong... because they need to justify...
Now there is the balance that tells us that IN THEIR MIND, they are feeling the way they are and feel somehow offended and beaten by the LBS. So it is their way of defending themselves.
My W actually frames it in a... what's that called... double bind or something like that... she tells me (and she's told the kids this, as well) that I have to always be right...
So I cannot defend myself, otherwise I'm trying to be right...
