W and I talked today about R. She stated that the fact that I am helping more with the finances has made her madder than when I did not help her. And that if I did this earlier then we would not be where we are currently are.
She then starts drinking and tells me that she wants to be in love with the person she is with. She then wants to commence with sex, but I tell her what is the point and then finish stuff around the house.
I feel like my W has a three prong approach to our M to ensure that it fails:
1. Finances and the fact that I was selfish with money, 2. Helping with the kids and around the house, and 3. My feelings have not changed and I want to be in love.
I have changed my attitude regarding finances and have been making progress with the kids.
I told her that a month is too short to change her feelings.
On one hand she is telling me she is waiting for the other shoe to drop and then is telling me that after a certain period of time she will believe the changes our for real and will stay.
How can I work on romance when my W has a wall between us?
