I had a talk with the boys at lunch today. I told them that I would be going to my fathers for Easter and we decided that it is best if they go with H to his family, as it is local and their turn for the holiday. I mentioned "I know that its no secret that we are still having problems" and they nodded.
I asked them if they have any questions or need to discuss anything. They made eye contact with each other (clearly they talk to each other about it, which makes me happy). They both said no.
Then they quickly moved on to happier subjects and wanted to share stories with me, we laughed and had a very nice lunch.
When it is finally time to have the separation discussion, H and I will do that together. But based on this one, I think they expect it.
It probably came as no shock, as yesterday was the first time in 20 yrs I didn't participate in H's birthday.
