It has been a couple of days since I have been on the board. W and kids are getting excited about FA.
Kids have had the last two days off for teacher conferences. We tried to find a sitter, but were unable. I then took them to work with me. W e-mailed a few times on Wednesday since she had no patients and suggested that we meet for lunch with the kids. Since boss was gone I picked up lunch and ate with her and a work friend. She then showed us her office and we left. She then sent me an email telling me how nice it was a short time later.
W had to run some errands after work and was running out of time before teacher conferences. I texted her and told her that I could make dinner and that I could handle the conferences (was going to go anyway). Made dinner and we were off to school. The old me would have demanded that W drop what she is doing and go to the conferences on her own.
Went to student conferences and then talked about it with W. This morning before she left for work W told me that she feels like she has abandoned the kids since I am now doing the bulk of the care for them.
Her statement caught me off guard, I told her that she has not abandoned the kids. Told her that since I was home she was able to do errands without them (pick up meds for S10 and Easter stuff). W told me she is not used to this. I listened and stated that the kids are not soley the responsibility of one of us and that when we work together it is much easier for all. Told her that kids don't care whether W or I get them ready for school.
We both had to leave so I left it at that. It is these kind of statements that leave me flat footed. Do I just listen?
When she talks about my 180's (finances, children and home) I can listen and validate.
