One point I want to make DIM - we all have dashed hopes when it comes to our marriages, births, motherhood, etc. I can show you an article I wrote on this, but I don't think I can posts links here.
Letting go and accepting what is ... is the only way to decrease the suffering.
What can you be grateful for? A healthy baby? A healthy pregnancy? A daughter who is pure love?
Even under the best circumstances, many women don't get the Hollywood version of what we all imagined as little girls that certain times in our lives would look like.
Those are the parts of ourselves we need to grow up and mature into adults who accept that things rarely turn out and look like what we imagine, and that it's still okay.
