i wish i had been able to do half the things you're managing to do already in my second month of the sitch .
as for the recliner thing - sheesh - talk about projecting onto you. i like your response. and yes, definitely stop taking care of him - but stay respectful and cheerful as you are - that will definitely get through
take care and stay strong
zig
me 46 H 38 M10yrs T 11 S10 BD ow 8/11 h filed 9/25/12
"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"