Wow, I am absolutely grateful for all the responses. Chatterbug, my sons are staying with me; however, my wife has them on her days off from work. I am no longer on active duty, and will no longer deploy. I am going to get out after 14 yrs of service. I have lost friends on multiple deployments and it has obviously taken a toll on my family.
I can say that I have felt a sense of freedom more and more since my wife and her mother have moved into a girlfriend's house. I did want to call W to come home the day after she moved out but I held back and I am glad I was strong enough to stick to my decision.
I have kept my conversations with my W within the subject matter of our three sons. This has not been easy, as my W has tryied to have several conversations that deal with everyday things.
I am already planning on doing something (hobby) I have been doing off and on for the past 7 yrs and will now go at it in full.
My finances are in order, and W has taken responsibility for her debt. She did use a few dollars the other day, but has already put the money back into my account.
At present, I feel better and better about my decision; not because it did not hurt to tell W and her mother to leave but because I truly believe the separation was something that needed to happen in order for there to be a chance at restoring our marriage. I do realize restoring the marriage may not happen but the separation is needed for there to be a new beginning in the future.
