Yeah, I was kinda getting the sense that you are neither here nor there on the M, which is why I asked the other questions...
The reason I brought up the LLs is just so that you can see that perhaps he IS trying to show you love, just not how you would like it. IF you want to bring that romance back into your M, then maybe the LLs are something you might want to look at and work on.
Happiness? Well sure, you know that comes from within....
So what are you doing to BE happy? You sound pretty good, which I'm sure is because you aren't stressing about the M, one way or the other...
But how are you "finding" your happiness?
On certainty/comfort... you have a roof over your head, food on the table, clothes on your back... so you do have a certain level of that...
Is certainty/comfort what your are missing, or is it your personal motivator? That which you consistently seek?
Because there are two ways to look at the 6 human needs. One is by growth through elevation. Meaning that as we achieve one need to a level we are seeking, we move to the next...
So you have certainty and comfort in your environment, so you would next look to variety... how can you introduce variety into your life?
So it sounds like your core, motivating need is certainty/comfrot as you are looking for it from your H? In what way?
This could be important, because he is providing you with variety (both an opposite and one up from consistency)...
So for right now, let's take your H out of the equation. You know that, for the moment, he is not going to provide you with consistency/comfort...
Where are you getting that, in your life? How are you providing that, for yourself?
