This sounds weird but I almost feel like I followed the pattern of a typical woman who wanted to talk problems out and she was more of the typical man who didn't want to talk and avoided things. Weird but true.
I feel the same way Snow. I have shouldered the majority of the responsibility for being where we are but my w rarely if ever talked to me deeply or to let me know how truly unhappy she was. She avoided confrontation and r talks like the plague.
I am planning on reading your entire thread because every time I read an update our sitch's are very similar.
