My H came over yesterday to see S4, I was busy cleaning the kitchen floor. I try to always be busy doing something whenever he comes around. I have found the book "The Solo Partner" extremely helpful, esp the Pursuer/Distancer chapter, which describes our R in the past to a T. So I keep out of his way (in a friendly way), and do as little as possible for him (no advice, no questions - the works). This takes a lot of energy from my side.
GAL is working for me almost by default, because as I am now the single provider for me and S (I work full-time from home), I don't have much time to sit around and dwell. I take my S to the pool, we go running, we meet w friends etc.
I pray too, it helps. And I try to take S4 to family mass on Sundays. I'll be praying for you.
Ctflor, How is your situation now? How long did your H's MLC last? I hope you are doing well.
Sorry for hijacking this thread. I posted my own under Newcomers, titled "Advice please."
