Wow there is some very good information and advice here, I really appreciate all of it. I do think I will need to set a plan. H is so all over the place right now that it will be important to have as much planned as possible, while remaining flexible for the kids sake.
I do think he will be involved. I don't have much concern there. But you just never know what the future holds, or none of us would be here
Last night was interesting, and I did the best I could to stay off the coaster.
H came home early and took the kids golfing to celebrate his bday. I went to dinner with a friend. At 7 I got a text from H saying "do we have dinner plans" Ha!! I replied "I thought you were doing something with the boys"
When I got home they were eating burger, H bbq'd for them
We spent the night apart, and the kids were out. At one point we found ourselves in the same room and I could tell he was feeling his drink. I was now facing angry H.
Earlier in the day some friends called to ask me why H's facebook page was private, you couldn't see posts from anyone but him (yet H can see them). It looked as if nobody had wished him a happy birthday. I wasn't planning to say anything to him about it. He came to my office after work and my coworker mentioned it. He looked like a cornered cat.
So when angry H came out last night, he was ranting about FB and he didn't change privacy settings. Then he said "you didn't even get me a birthday card, you really got me back. I knew you would do this"
He also said "nobody in your family wished me a happy birthday" I replied "i wouldn't know, I can't see your facebook page"
That was coincidence, my grandmother posted to him this morning and said "happy birthday, love you"
I woke up this morning feeling very strong. I am going to see my accountant to finalize taxes and plan to call the L when I get into the office later today. I want to see if she will work with me on some type of payment plan
