I think my favourite is 'The Divorce Song' Liz Phair.
But the idea that any of the changes will bring him up with any kind of jolt is mistaken. It seems there is a bit of you that perhaps still does not 'get' MLC. He is SURE in his head that he is doing the right thing. And that feeling usually lasts a long long time. I am talking years here, not months. There are a few people whose spouses 'wake up' in a shorter period and get therapy/counselling/meds to restore normalcy. But most of them barrel along through their crisis with little apparent regret for all they have thrown away. They see it as liberation for a new and better life. Although I do think there is pain there, they blame that on their life with us.
I think the lack of regret was the thing that threw me the most. What you are feeling is normal. What your h is doing isn't, by any standards. You do not walk away from a long marriage and your kids and all of that, on a whim, if all is well in your world. We persist in applying the standards of normality to them [I did it too, for a long time] It isn't until we realise they really are on another planet and see things quite differently from the rest of us, that it becomes less painful, and oddly enough, easier to understand. There is a weird logic to it, but it like trying to compare apples and cabbages. [Much less similar than apples and pears!]
