Thank you for the posts. I have read the divorce remedy and am halfway through divorce busting. Im finding them very helpful.

If my w were having an affair, which I HONESTLY DONT KNOW,if she would come to me and tell me,was sorry for it,and ended it I would forgive her. The biggest problem is not knowing and the anxiety that it causes me. Im giving her space. I made my first payment on her space today. I hate the no contact.This Easter will be the first holiday that we havent been together for over 30 years. That will be hard.
But through it all I am improving myself. I can take care of myself. I will either be a better husband to my W, or to someone else. Again thank you for the words of support. Soon we will be in the field so hopefully will not think about W quite so much.