So far things are still a roller coaster. One minute my W is acting civil and the next she is sending me angry text messages. We had to push our court date back a week since her lawyer was not ready. All attempts by me to negotiate before we go to court have not been well received. She will agree at first but then when she goes back to her lawyer she takes back every compromise we agreed to. I can say that I have been keeping my temper in check. Her negative attitude is getting worse. She now refuses to put any money into our checking account and is buying everything herself. Which means I have to pay for my own gas and such. Someone a few post back said she was trying to starve me of my lawyer funds and I agree.
I wanted to get an opinion on something that happened today. She called me about 20 minutes before she was to pick up our son and told me she was going to be late. I had a gym class that I would have been very late to if I stayed and waited for her. So I told her I would take my son with me and she could pick him up after because she called me too late and did not make other arrangements. She asked where I was going and I said I had "plans." I don't feel I have to report to her when and where I am going since she made this clear to me when it came to her. So she became angry. I told her this is what divorce is like and she had to get used to it. I had a life and I wasn't going to sit around and wait for her. She threw it in my face that I was the one who filed for divorce, even though she was the one who kept asking for one and moved out.
So did I do the right thing? I took my son with me and I came back right after. She showed up a few minutes after we got home. I suppose I could have let her pick him up at the gym, but I would have had to leave the class and sign my son out. I am concerned that I might have acted out of anger. Especially since earlier in the day she told me she refuses to discuss a negotiation on the temporary terms. She wants to only discuss matters through our attorneys.
When I got home tonight I noticed she removed all of the pictures of us from around the house. When I asked her if she did she said yes and that "it is not healthy." Thoughts?
As far as my goals are concerned I have done a good job of following through. I went to the gym every weekday and twice on tuesdays. I also have kept looking for work. I did some yard work and the house is clean. I'm trying a new audiobook called "The unexpected legacy of divorce: the 25 year landmark study." I also went to a new church and enjoyed the sermon. Another positive thing is that I went for a physical and everything came out fantastic. My Doc showed me my blood work from a year ago and it was horrible. My cholesterol was high across the board. Well not this year! Everything was normal and I've lost 34 lbs since my last checkup. I was so happy I showed my wife the results. Of course she said "where's my credit" because she was the one who "forced" me to the gym. I told her I'll give her partial credit only because I did all of the work and she never stopped complaining that she had to force me to go.
Thanks for listening.
Married:11yr Son:2yr Bomb 8/2011 Asked for divorce 10/2011 Returned 11/2011 WAW 3/2012
