mmm... just to add for a bit of clarity, although I want this to be an example of abandoning the children under your care, while you are with them...
What I have found my W doing is asking to have the kids for specific weekends... when all her friends are getting together...
In her frame of mind, it is about the kids getting together with the friend's kids... that makes sense, doesn't it...? thing is, these kids are really friends with each other... they don't ask each other to their b-day parties or such... it just happens that it's a gathering of my W's friends (drinking buddies / support group)... but it's about the kids, right...?
So she asks for the kids, then takes them to a party or event and leaves them to their own devices... not quite the quality time that my kids tell me they are anticipating...
So yeah, there is a point where we need OUR time, but we should always be mindful that when we set time aside for quality time with the kids... it should be quality time WITH the kids...
anyhow, like I said... just food for thought, Autumn... be aware of this kind of stuff... act accordingly...
