Thank him for the kind offer and then I would advise him that you are planning to have an egg hunt at home because your child is still recovering. If you are absolutely sure that you do not want him there, then leave the conversation very short and not mention to him about coming over. If he truly wants to be a part of your children's lives, he will ask if he can come over...that's when I would say okay...but only if he asks.
Your aunt may be on to something...control. I hope your d's doctor's visit went okay.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
