I don't know. I left when i confirmed my husband's affair, but sometimes i wonder if putting distance between you and the WAS is helpful for the marriage. I understand the need to give space, but is separation really helpful? (just trying to get your opinions)
If someone wants the "space" to actively pursue an affair they will. It is their choice. It is their choice to leave the house. It is their choice to continue with communication with the other person. You did not push them to do this. So do not ever blame yourself for this. That distance you put between you two was to protect yourself so you could get your brain functioning again. Begin to build a safe environment again.
It is all choices. DB teaches us to improve ourselves. So we can be able to work on the marriage with new skills if that time comes.
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