autumn, I do want to offer, regarding the kids...\

it is true, they should not have to choose... it is asking them to choose loyalties...

who "normally" made the decision of where the family went...?

maybe let the other parent make that decision...

if your H would be the one to decide (as a 180 for you) and he cannot / will not...

then you need to choose where the boys go, and be OK with your decision...

not easy, but necessary...

in my case, my W told me long ago that there was going to be no "easter event" with her side...

this past week, that has changed...

rather than fight with my W on something that was agreed upon, I allowed for the change and gave a touch more...

I will fight FOR the kids... but I won't fight OVER them...