I think the Ml'er is somewhat of a predator. They feed off of the vulnerable and naive. The stander has the Ml'ers number. We know what they are and what makes them tick. The Ml'er does not want us to know the true them so they move on......maybe due to guilt and shame.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11