I think something is happening between H & OW, just not sure what. He’s been moping around and has seemed depressed the last couple of weeks. I haven’t asked any questions or mentioned it, but Sunday night he basically threw a tantrum because the cable remote wouldn’t work. It was strange. He only does stuff like that when he’s upset about something, and we haven’t had an argument or anything, so I don’t think it was about us.
He also has said he’s been nauseous and hasn’t been feeling well. Hurt his back somehow yesterday. It all reminded me of how I felt when he first dropped the bomb. I’ve been helpful, but trying not to be overbearing or hovering. I stayed home with him yesterday because he couldn’t stand up straight. He sent me a text message this morning saying: “I truly appreciate all you did to look after me yesterday. Thank you a million times. Happy hump day! Love you”. It shocked me because I wasn’t expecting it. He had told me yesterday he appreciated me taking care of him a few times, but I just said you’re welcome and left it at that.
Overall, H just seems kind of tuned out and just sits in the same spot on the couch most days. Some of our interactions have been different since I noticed the change in him – not much cuddling in bed; we haven’t been intimate at all during this past couple of weeks; he hasn’t been as helpful around the house (Where DID Ward Cleaver go?).
I know that even if he and OW are done, that doesn’t change anything really for us. There are many more issues besides OW that we would have to work through. Plus I know these things can go back and forth for a while. So I have no high hopes that it’s really over just yet. I could snoop to find out what is really going on, but I’ve restrained myself thus far. If it’s not over, it’ll just make me feel bad to know that he’s still out there doing whatever he wants to do.
So I’m wondering if I should back off from doing all of the “girlfriend” stuff, and just leave him to be miserable or continue what I’ve been doing. I will say it is kind of annoying that he could be so sad and upset about ending his A, but I’ve managed to keep my thoughts about that to myself. LOL
In the words of my grandmother: “Sometimes it just seems easier to pack my bag of rags and go…” But I've never done anything the easy way...no need to start now! :-)
