I used the word "may" a couple of times to express that the comment was not dealing in absolutes.
As in they may be hiding burning desires, or they may be cold fish.
I don't know what's in their heads, and neither do their husbands. Some will argue that they themselves may not even realize what's really going on.
All I'm saying is that many a times a frigid wife has been turned on by an unlikely stranger who was able to turn on the spark after years of the husband failing. Does this happen in all sitch's no absolutely not.
Yet I think that it happens enough that any husband in an ssm should be asking themselves, is it that she doesn't want sex, or is it me?
Because after all the only thing you can fix is yourself.
As for your first question, while no its not necessarily your fault (although it could be) that a spouse may not be attracted to their husband. It is his fault if she remains his spouse and his chronically unhappy.
Divorce is an option, an ugly, dangerous, option but it's there.
As for what I'm saying it's just another avenue to consider.
