I always tried to remember this, when dealing w/a topic/situation that made me feel bad...
You handled things respectfully, which is more than he's done with you.
Not yet separated, yet moving in that direction, in the same home/bed, yet working independently on your plan... How can it not be emotional?
Just a few thoughts...
Considering his mistakes, has he done what is required/has he taken any of the big steps required for forgiveness and reconciliation?
Is he considering healing if you/your family before himself?
And, remember, even if he does... It's not weeks of solid individual work, it's months/year (depending on the situation) to prove the worth of the effort.
You're doing the right thing re:birthday/Easter/space, especially with the boys. your space at a time like this speaks volumes.
Now, give yourself a big hug.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
