"I seem to have more success when I ask him for things, but a lot less success when I suggest I do things for him."
that struck me when i read it and i realized that it is true with my h also. i'd like to figure that out also - what it means.
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Do you think it's guilt?
I wonder if anyone can confirm that.
I don't really want to put on my rose-tinted glasses at this point, BUT I'm wondering if it is that men have an innate need to 'give', it helps their self-esteem in many ways. For example, if they give you a compliment, graciously accept it always. So generally, if they give, they are giving a part of themselves.
I think it comes down to basic biology.
I have a male friend that I am hanging out with these days. I don't cross the line simply because my heart is all battened up at the moment, but he gives me a lot without me asking for it at all. So, he downloads music or films, brings food over. We are both students and on budgets, but he gives what he can. We went to the shops to pick up some stuff. He only had his card on him (the shop took cash only), so I paid for everything. He was like, "I don't feel good about you paying for this. I don't feel good at all." That sort of thing. To be honest, I didn't feel good about it either. Well, we ended up going to a shop that did accept cc's and he paid then and felt so much better.
I had a boyfriend a while back, he didn't do much of anything. Granted, he was just a student so he didn't have much money at all, but not even a flower?? In fact, I was buying all kinds of little things for him. It didn't last long.
