I didn't see it coming part 2

[breakdownbill]

Did she actually tell you she wanted to work on the R and go slowly, or is that what you said?

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she said that's what she wanted, but she might have meant past tense.


Maybe you assumed she agreed with you? Maybe I missed it. At any rate, don't let your feelings lead you down this road only to be disappointed again, b/c you will read too much into what she says or doesn't say.

Good advice, and to be fair I handled it well and just brushed it off as a misunderstanding (no sour grapes on my part).

Hi Sandi

Thanks for the advice, I haven't got my hopes up anymore about our R. I'm just living it day by day and I feel so much better for not feeling any guilt or pressure to make our M work at the moment. We are getting on so much better lately, my W even cooked a roast on Monday and did some cleaning (it's been months since she did any cleaning) and last night she made butterfly biscuits with the kids. So I'm happy that she's engaging more with the kids and starting to do her share around the house. There isn't any atmosphere between us, we talk loads and are still physically attracted to each other and have been ML frequently.

If we go ahead and separate after my course finishes next month, we'll do so on good terms. I feel at peace with it all at the moment, because either way I can see positives in working it out slowly or taking some time out to give each other space.

I feel a lot stronger to get through this since I started my counselling. I feel a lot more secure about who I am and what I want now.

Bill