I think what hits all us LBS so strongly is that the MLCer/WAS tells us that WE ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR THEIR UNHAPPINES AND REASON FOR LEAVING. If we had done a,b,c, etc. then they would be happy and not want to leave. But too late now, even if you start doing a,b,c, etc, too little too late, no use, no interest in mending the marriage. Sorry it's all your fault!
We take the scorn, criticism, accusations, and blame. Do that to a fixer type personality with a few co dependent issues, and Wow...here we taking complete blame for our marriages falling apart and feeling huge guilt.
I could NOT have said it better Kimmerz...so don't you think its time us fixers with some co-dependancy issues get off the train? Accept only what blame is truly yours, I say to myself.
There is a new day rising...
T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
