"I seem to have more success when I ask him for things, but a lot less success when I suggest I do things for him."

that struck me when i read it and i realized that it is true with my h also. i'd like to figure that out also - what it means.

maybe when we suggest we do things for them, it brings up their guilt? i don't know.

i haven't "allowed " him to come over and do a lot these past few months, even though he has constantly offered - now i'm allowing it. he seems more relaxed - i think i'll continue to do that.

sounds like you are doing well, and to be honest YC i was secretly relieved to see that you have your moments of doubt also - i have been trying so hard to follow the advice you wrote me a couple of weeks ago - letting the universe allow things to happen naturally in their own time - wrote it out and read it several times a day, but am still having moments when the doubts return and then i realize that i am not allowing. thanks for your help on htat- it has really got me to a much much better place and i believe that all of a sudden i am detaching

zig

me 46 H 38
M10yrs T 11
S10
BD ow 8/11
h filed 9/25/12


"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"