BF, good job on holding your tongue. That was also a nice feature to offer time with the kids.

Did your H say how he responded to your son?

I hope retrov. goes well for you. You sound like you may be in a good place to have no to low expectations.

Moving on....hmmm. It's so hard to know whether or not it's worth it. One thing is for certain, regardless of what happens, your H will always be in your life because of the kids. Can a person forgive and move past the hurt? I believe it is possible. But that is a personal choice. IMHO, regardless of whether or not the M is restored I think forgiveness is critical for one's self to be able to truly move on. Otherwise we carry the hurt and resentment with us and ultimately it can impact other relationships.

Ultimately, it takes both people to agree to move forward for the M. But you can live your life your way no matter what.

Hope your week goes well!

Me:45, W:45
S:16 D:13
M:22, T:25
Bomb: July 2010
Putting finances in order for "D"
Continue to live in same home-separate rooms