Tad, it really is best if you don't have those kinds of conversations with your sons. Best for them and best for you.
If they bring it up, I would say, Son, I would rather not talk about your mom with you.
Tad, you are still trying to figure out her mind. Not possible. She is in MLC Crazyland. If I had to guess, it is that she wants to be sure you are right where she left you.
Here's the thing. Who cares if she asks for you or if she doesnt?
And it doesnt matter if being her friend will make her think you are ok with all this. What matters is why would you want to be friends with someone who treated/treats you like crap?
Tad, I see you trying to read into what your sons told you. Don't. And being friends with her at this point will cause you pain.
Good luck with your new job, if you choose to take it.
